Someone who heard the shots told police a Lexus SUV sped away from the scene. and 67th Drive in Forest Hills, sources said Monday. The NYPD wants to question the disgruntled customer - a 50-year-old man once charged with armed robbery - about the Saturday night shooting of Zhiwen Yan as he was riding his scooter near 198th St. The shooting death of a beloved Queens Chinese food deliveryman could be linked to a months-long dispute involving a customer furious he didn’t get enough duck sauce with his order. This is probably two cent armchair therapist stuff, but I'm sure I was creating some sort of affection or acceptance from a male tribe that maybe other men got from a father or grandfather. and were very secure and masculine in a relaxed, unforced way. But I chased older men, especially affectionate ones who would tousle my hair, hold me, etc. I don't want to confuse this with any "daddy" kink because what I'm asking isn't much about sex.
Or more to the point: if you grew up with an "old school" father who was very stoic and unemotional, as I did, do you think some of your "wiring" as a gay man is about getting affection from another man that is a sort of stand in for a daddy type figure? Which seems like it's probably total BS, but I wonder, especially for older gay men - do you think any of that is true? It used to be said that gay men were often the product of a strong mother figure and an absent father. This is not a thread about hot older men or any kind of "daddy" scene.